Having lot of friends single and over 35, I always respected their way of living and I am certain that they never felt pressured from my part. I totally respect when someone knows what he wants in life and act on it.
Being SINGLE is never a huge deal or problem. But managing the SOLITUDE that comes with it, usually can be.
An Argentine woman, Paula Schargorodsky, documenting her relationships, begins an intimate investigation searching for love and answers: must she settle down or continue to be a free spirit in order to be happy?
"Over the past 10 years, I’ve been compulsively filming everyone and everything for no particular reason. All my love stories and breakups have been recorded and systematically kept.
As I continued to change boyfriends and hometowns every two years or so, I filmed my friends with their boyfriends, then husbands, then pregnant bellies, until they were surrounded by children. When my last single friend from school married, I fell asleep the evening of the wedding and didn’t show up.
I’m 35, Argentine, Jewish and single.
And these four categories don’t seem to go smoothly together. So I decided to make a film about the questions I have struggled to answer. Can social mandates be disregarded, or is my extended youth finally coming to its end?
After I finished filming, I met someone. He is imperfect, and I love him. This time I realize I can live with unanswered questions, and that’s fine."
One thing for sure.. "If you aren’t happy single, you won’t be happy taken. Happiness comes from within, not from people."
Paula Schargorodsky is a filmmaker who lives in Buenos Aires. She is currently expanding the story in this Op-Doc video into a feature-length documentary, “Girl Behind the Camera,” and an online interactive project, “Get Over It.”
By Heidi Shebaro
Founder of "The Kindness Project in the Middle East", a teacher and a blogger
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